I've met some brilliant people in my lifetime. Some of them have so many letters behind their names they have to hand out two-part business cards. (Not really. But you get my point.) Yet these very same people also seem to stumble all over themselves, especially when it comes to the basics of leadership. Many overthink everything, value perfection over progress, and, in general, struggle to turn their brilliant ideas into strategies and plans that move the needle forward. They are frustrated by how slow other people adapt to their ideas and have little patience for explaining themselves more than once.
I’ve also met people who were set up for success but just couldn’t seem to pull it off. You want them to succeed. You even try to intervene at times. But, in spite of it all, these people always find a way to complicate what should have been an easy win.
YOU ARE YOUR BIGGEST CRITIC
It took me a long time to realize a leader sees the future much clearer than anyone else most of the time. I also realized I could get in the way of my success faster than I can blink. Both situations happen less than they used to. Nevertheless, no one is immune to either scenario.
As the saying goes, “You are your biggest critic and your own worst enemy.”
I know my thinking, attitude, and actions sometimes limit my capacity to achieve what’s important or necessary. Very often it requires an entire reset to break through whatever barrier seems to be in my way.
YOUR BIGGEST OBSTACLE? YOU.
I am my biggest obstacle when I get stuck in overprocessing and self-criticism when what needs to happen is for me to just get out of my own way. And, I've learned to ask myself five questions to help me overcome whatever seems to be holding me back:
Why is this important? It’s vital to go back and remind yourself and others why you started in the first place.
What is the win? Having a specific outcome in mind will help you recalibrate the distance between now and next.
What needs to happen next? This question will help you get off center and start moving forward quickly.
Who do I need to involve to be successful? No one is a success on their own. Deciding who you will need to work with to achieve your goal will help you know how to engage others.
How will my success help others? I find I am my own worst enemy when I'm entirely focused on myself. When you think about how your success will elevate others, you take the focus off yourself.
The biggest obstacle to your success just might be—you.
When you feel stuck, frustrated, unheard, or even misunderstood, there is a distinct possibility it might be something you're doing or thinking that is keeping you from the success you so clearly see in your head. Sometimes the most important thing you can do for yourself is to just get out of your own way.
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