Posted by admin on September 5, 2018 in Leadership
Sometimes you have to lean in. Sometimes you have to let go.
Teaching your children to ride a bike is not easy. It is both mentally and emotionally challenging. You must give them clear instructions, and then you must be ready for them to fall. It is, as some say, an existential crisis of parental proportions.
The most difficult part is letting the bike slowly slip through your hands and watching them ride off—however short or long it lasts. Two things happen at that moment: One, they get their first taste of the freedom that comes with having their own wheels. And two, you get your first taste of fear in that they are now able to travel farther and faster than ever before.
In that moment, you realize …
If you don’t give clear instructions, they won’t know what to do.
If you don't let go, they'll never learn to ride the bike on their own.
And if they don’t fall down, they won’t learn how to get back up and try again.
All of those phases will happen in an instant and are essential and critical lessons for both parents and leaders.
IF YOU WANT TO SEE OTHERS SOAR, SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO LEAN IN AND SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO LET GO.
A friend of mine says it like this, "My job is to create clarity around where we're going. My team is responsible for how we get there." I think many leaders, especially inexperienced ones, try to do both. They want to determine where to go and tell everyone else how to get there. My experience shows me the best decision is to give the clarity and focus necessary for the people around you to agree on the same destination and then get out of the way.
An insecure leader will …
Make it about them
Never transfer ownership of outcomes to others
Wait for the first sign of trouble and then swoop in to save the day
A secure leader, however, will …
Let others succeed (and sometimes fail)
Find satisfaction in watching others take ownership and lead
Know when to step in or step back
IF YOU DON’T GIVE OTHERS THE ROOM TO SUCCEED, YOU’LL STUNT THEIR CAPACITY TO DISCOVER AND ACTIVATE THE FULL POTENTIAL OF THEIR DIVINE DESIGN.
A parent's job is to raise strong, healthy, and independent children who grow up to be productive members of society. A leader’s job is help others increase their abilities, interests, and instincts so they can make the right decision in the most challenging moments. To do that, you’re going to have to learn when it’s the right time to step in and when it’s the right time to step back.
In the end, being a leader is less about growing others as it is about improving yourself. Healthy leaders recognize the difficult things are often the catalysts for breakthrough experiences.
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